"Chicken Fingers"
Being a stranger in a stranger land you turn inward. In my case that means Heather. Over the past month we have visited wonderful places together, gotten lost together, woken up in hotel rooms with no windows, bargained for kiwi fruit in sign language, you get the idea. This is all wonderful. I love it, I mean what better way to spend your first year of marriage. Call it an extended honeymoon. That is,
most of the time. Tonight was a different kind of example of why this is a great way to spend your first year of marriage together. Conflict resolution. We've just moved into our new apartment, and had our first "home meal" the entire trip. Granted there was no cooking involved, that will come in due time, but I bought us a cooked chicken with some side dishes. Heather was supposed to get napkins, but somehow forgot in the midst of chewing out her boss for more money, and shopping with my credit card for more boots. Figure that one out, she makes more money than me, and still I buy everything. Anyway, the one thing Heather did find time to buy was a new bed,
OK,
mattress, but we're only here for a year so it'll do. Heather is a freak about anything having to do with sleeping. Her pillows need to be fluffy, but still firm enough not to give her a stiff neck. The duvet cover needs to match the pillow cases, and ideally will be folded at the base of the bed over the bed spread which is in turn tucked in tight enough to cut the circulation off most
mammalian life. This might not be weird to some people, but for me its weird. I didn't even know what half this stuff was before I started sharing a bed with her....on our wedding night. Anyway, we eat a nice meal of chicken, and naturally with no napkins in sight, and wearing my evening sweats as I often do, I wipe things down on my sweatpants. First bad move. I then finish off the green bean salad and leave the empty container on the counter. Second bad move. Finished, I retire to the new
mattress and fluffy duvet to lie down and digest. Three strikes and you out. Heather burst through the bedroom opening, and proceeds to go Queen
Latifah on my ass. Through the genuflection, and high pitched cacophony, the
beratement over lack of manners, the demeaning commentary on my penchant for nose picking, the the only thing I could make out was, "Your greasy chicken fingers are on MY side of the bed!!!" Till death due us part.......yikes.
"India"
My first assignment for work has been to work as an "embedded" consultant at Merrill Lynch building out Merrill Lynch locations in mainland China (Beijing) and India (
Mumbai and Chennai). This is a new experience to me as I have never worked for a client by sitting in their space, using their computers and phones, having an e-mail with their e-mail address, etc. Overall I think it will be a great experience because I don't have much corporate interiors experience, work on a team made up of 5 nationalities, have complete ownership of the project, and get to work in the two of the most important growth markets in the world. In addition the projects all are set to wrap up in the next three months leaving plenty of time for me to experience other things. Now all that said, this is easily the most exasperating work experience I have ever had. Without wanting to
stereotype, it has been a total education on the cultural differences between Indians and the Chinese. Allow me to
stereotype. Generally speaking both groups have much to learn from American efficiencies in management. There is far too much
bureaucracy, fear of making decisions (this may also be a product of Merrill Lynch, but allow me to continue), and determining how to get things done. The difference lies in their attitudes about dealing with authority,
ie. ME. The Chinese will listen to what you have to say, and then based upon how that relates to the "system" they have been taught, agree or disagree. If they disagree, they will debate the issue with you, and if convinced of your position move ahead. The Indians are totally different. They will listen to you, and then based upon how it relates to themselves, either agree or disagree. Generally a debate is useless, and you just have to wear them out, or yell at them...literally. Both are about covering their own ass, but Indians do it in a selfish uncompromising way compared to the Chinese. Now that said, I love their curried chicken. No, they are great people, and this is only my first impressions.
Truly. Yet, it is also the opinion of everyone in my office. The Indian projects are DREADED assignments, and after sitting through a number of conference calls with a circus-like atmosphere where
Ajit the project manager is calling in from a open air market with a freaking chicken
squawking into the
receiver, and
Sonali the architect has a baby crying in the background, I find myself asking, THESE are the people that are supposedly threatening U.S supremacy?! They are unprofessional, disrespectful, seemingly uneducated, impossible to get a hold of. They're a disaster, and have a lot to learn. That said corporate
strategists love them so what do I know. Hopefully I can travel there as part of these jobs, and have more to report. But in parting I'll leave you with this: my contact in India is a former military guy by the name Captain
Sameer Bhagwat who insists that everyone call him Captain, and whose primary occupation is dealing out bribe money (provided by Merrill Lynch as "regulatory fees" to the local swinging dicks. Does this sound like a place you want to set up your company?
Quick thoughts:
1. No one over here uses UPS or FedEx, its all
DHL. As in "
Nadim, no worries, you'll have it tomorrow, I'm
DHLing it". Could be worth looking into this stock
2. For lack of better programming Heather and I have stooped to watching MTV only its the Asian version so they'll have hip hop acts that will rap in Cantonese. Rappers look like such idiots no matter what they're saying.
3.
Filipino's make up the largest ex-pat community here by far; 160,000 versus 80,000 for all other nationalities combined. They are almost exclusively housekeepers, nannies, or interestingly American cover bands. Heather and I took in our first
Filipino act in the
JW Marriott lounge this past Friday night. Yes, I know, we've come a long way, before you know it we'll be hitting the all you can eat dinner buffet at Howard
Johnsons in Kowloon. Anyway, the act wasn't half bad, culminating with a duet with piano
accompaniment of Lionel Richie's "Easy".
4. Heather and I (you start to see what I mean don't you) went on our first hike on
Hong Kong island this past weekend, and it was magnificent. Look for pictures shortly. The contrast of tropical
vegetation, and serenity with a monstrous skyline in the distant background is striking, and can only cause one to wonder how nice a place this island would be if no one ever discovered the calming effects of opium.
All for now, hope everybody is doing well. Love Heather and Will!!